{"id":7105,"date":"2013-07-11T00:21:02","date_gmt":"2013-07-11T07:21:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/?p=7105"},"modified":"2013-07-11T07:21:02","modified_gmt":"2013-07-11T14:21:02","slug":"ask-for-help","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/2013\/07\/11\/ask-for-help\/","title":{"rendered":"Ask for Help"},"content":{"rendered":"
\"Helping-Hand\"<\/a><\/h6>\n

I learned from one who was particularly good at friend making that a great way of doing it is to ask for help.<\/p>\n

I experienced it myself recently when a neighbor I’ve not been particularly close to saw me messing around with a fence gate. I would rather these projects were in the back instead of the front of the house, especially when that neighbor is present, but sometimes we can’t choose.<\/p>\n

It’s not because of any one thing I can describe, we’re just different in our approach to things and we’ve never bonded. One thing I’ll acknowledge, however, he’s very handy and knows how to fix things.<\/p>\n

I’d struggled with this gate before and, since he was out mowing, I figured the friendly thing to do would go over and ask his advise. It was the best thing I could have done.<\/p>\n

Not only did he have an approach I’d have never thought of, before long he was bringing his tools over and instead of him helping me I was helping him! At least a little. It took a couple of hours but he didn’t seem to mind. It was like he enjoyed it, and (surprise) so did I.<\/p>\n

The light conversation, the being involved in a common project, and (the easy part) allowing him to be the expert, all worked to build a bridge between us that was new. And refreshing. There’s been a new warmth ever since. (And I got my gate fixed!)<\/p>\n

That was just one example. People like to help. Always acting like we never need it makes us seem standoffish and independent. It’s not a way to be friendly.<\/p>\n

Even Jesus once asked a certain woman for a drink.* It’s not that he was without resources, having proved he could do wonderful things with water. But he was reaching out to her, starting a conversation. He asked for help. A bond was begun.<\/p>\n

Try it yourself. Drown your pride. Become dependent. Ask someone for help. Do it today!<\/p>\n

You’ll be surprised at the friendships that form, or existing ones deepen.<\/p>\n

And the benefit will be on both sides.<\/p>\n

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\n*It’s the story of the woman at the well in John 4.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

The trouble with us is we’re too competent, at least we think we are; but what kind of way is that to be friendly?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[4],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7105"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=7105"}],"version-history":[{"count":23,"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7105\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":7131,"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/7105\/revisions\/7131"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=7105"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=7105"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.hyattmoore.com\/blank-slate\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=7105"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}